Two years ago I still thought that CD’s volatile behaviour was caused by what had happened during my marriage break up. Last summer I believed the NEPS psychologist when she said that he needed resource hours and perhaps the school should apply for an SNA just in case. By Christmas I was exhausted - and I suspect his teacher was as well. It was clear that resource hours alone were not enough, and even an SNA made little impact.
Yet sometimes he would go for a while with no problems, just odd behaviours, and though he now ‘hates’ school, this is not unusual!
So I did nothing, until a couple of friends from the world of special needs told me that I could be heading for big trouble. And I listened - it wasn’t like the sometimes annoying advice you get as a new Mum. It takes guts for another parent to tell you that your child might have special needs or need extra help. They had no idea how I would react and they were taking a big risk.
This time I did listen, but it wasn’t easy to hear.
Myself and CD went to look at some other schools, just in case. I brought him with me so that I could gauge his reaction to smaller classes and other children with Asperger’s. He was completely cool about the whole thing - not like his Mammy.
Then suddenly we had the offer of a place, for this September, in the Asperger Outreach Class that we both liked the best. And about a week to decide.
I thought of the warnings from other parents, how his behaviour could deteriorate further without intervention, and how that intervention really needed to take place before he became a teenager. And I acted on their advice. Tomorrow is CD’s last day in a mainstream class. I’m still nervous about having made such a big decision, but I’m very glad I listened.