Reading this post made me smile, but it also made me cringe.
Mothering is the most important job in the world, and looking after small children 24/7 is incredibly tiring. Your work is never done, and you get no pay, just blame if your kids are not perfect. I know I moan *occasionally* but I wouldn't be without my kids. When mothering becomes difficult it's not usually because of the children. It's due to poverty or sickness, or lack of understanding or support for special needs or problems at home.
I'd much rather be a mum than any of these:
... coal miner
...leper
...cancer patient
...chugger
...A&E nurse
...door-to-door salesman
and many more!
What do you think? Have I just lost my sense of humour?
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| 12 months after becoming a Mum and I'm still smiling :) |
I'd rather be a mum than anything. However, it would be much easier with planty of money behind me and another adult to share the responsibility with. If you have to add special needs to that, I would say it's not just THAT hard, it's much harder. You are still my absolute hero in this department.
ReplyDeleteI have to say that post did make me laugh HARD. But I do agree that there are many worse things in life and I wouldn't trade it for the world.xxx
ReplyDeleteI have just spent an hour chatting to my ex's partner. After 3 (at least) miscarriages, and a stillborn baby born full-term, she makes me feel incredibly guilty when I moan about the kids. All she wants in life is a child of her own.
ReplyDeleteBeing a mother is something you naturally prepare for from early childhood. I always knew I'd have children, and always knew I'd have boys.
The worst part,for me, is the fear of something bad happening to them that I can't control, and that will stay with me until I die.
Yes being a mum is the best and most important thing I have EVER done in my life and I love it. I gave up a job that I enjoyed in order to give him what he needs and I now much prefer this 'job'. That doesn't mean I don't moan about it occasionally either!Everyone has a moan about their job form time to time, don't they?
ReplyDeletexx Jazzy
@Midlife Singlemum - you're very kind lol, but I wasn't thinking of special needs specifically :)
ReplyDelete@Lynsey S - Exactly!
@LUCEWOMAN - yes that is true, I've had to block out all the fears I have about my Angel in Africa x
@jazzygal - they do of course, but this post made me think of the Irish farmers, who complain so much that no-one listens any more! xx
I gave up my career to look after my kids and (phew!) have no regrets at all. The bank balance is slimmer, but we manage, and we're happier because of it.
ReplyDeleteI think I'd rather be a mother than a stripper, coz it's just too damn cold in Ireland. It has nothing at all to do with my cellulite XXX
I don't see it as an either/or choice. My choice is to be a mother and to work - I just wish it wasn't such a hard balance to achieve. At some point I was a mother, an employee and a cancer patient at the same time but luckily now I have only the first 2 jobs to juggle :) It helps that there is a two of us to do the juggling - now doing it on your own seems really hard. To me it looks as hard as being a mother looks to that non-parent blogger!
ReplyDeleteI read that post the other day and it made me chuckle a lot.
ReplyDeleteIt is SO tough being a mother but despite lack of pay and (sometimes) horrendous working conditions it's THE most rewarding job in the world.
*passes sick bucket*
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@Jean - no Ireland definitely does not have the weather for stripping! xxx
ReplyDelete@Truf - I wasn't really thinking of the working/SAHM mum alternatives, more that non-mothers would just roll their eyes at this post and think that we complain too much!
@SAHMloving it - no no don't get sick please? xx
I love being a mum and wouldn't swap it for the world even though they drive me mad sometimes!
ReplyDeleteMy mum criticised me this week ( I am resisting a blog rant about it!) for always saying I'm tired! She said I've said it since I became a mum! Maybe she's forgotten what it was like having small people to care for.
@Suburbia - I was thinking of having "she was always tired" as my tombstone epitaph..
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