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Sunday, December 02, 2012
Aspergers and the jar of peanut butter
Peanut butter on toast is my son's current breakfast of choice.
He knows how he likes it too:
Two slices of white sliced bread from Lidl toasted on '2', taken out while still warm and spread with Panda Crunchy Peanut Butter.
I can make this in about 2 minutes.
But as a responsible Mammy I am trying to get my son to make his own breakfast.
Yesterday it was 11.05 before he FINALLY sat down to eat it. And when I say 'sit', there was a fair bit of wandering around the kitchen involved too.
The breakfast-making began around 9am. I get that his aspergers means he needs relaxation time and lots of it. Currently this involves lying on the sofa with his laptop while wrapped in a duvet. I pop in to remind him about breakfast at regular intervals, focusing on the health benefits and how it will improve his gaming skills...
I was delighted to see a loaf left on the counter at about 10.30 as it meant that he had actually got off the sofa, and put the bread in the toaster all by himself. I praised him and went back to brushing Smiley's hair.
But he went back into the living room and forgot about his toast.
I saw it peeping over the top of the toaster and went back in again to remind him.
It was rejected as too cold. I feared that a new start would be needed, but luckily he agreed to my idea to warm it up.
Next problem, removing the bread from the toaster. Usually I get cries of "It's too hot, Mum!"
But being merely warm, this went okay too.
I directed him to get down the peanut butter to spread it on the toast.
"Oh no, I can't Mum, it look gross!"
It looks gross, but you want to eat it, son?
Mind does mental backflip.
"Why?" I ask.
"All those yellow scrapy bits on the side of the jar," he replies.
Other days he's complained about it being too 'liquidy'.
So no spreading practice today then. And yes, he does need to practice. Fine motor skills are still a problem. His grip is not optimal, but the way that I do it is not 'comfy'. So I'm working on other ways to help him.
But the boy has to eat! So we'll do it all again tomorrow...