Thursday, February 7, 2013

His first exam #aspergers

It was actually a test.  An assessment test that all the children take before joining the secondary school.  No-one 'fails' it.  No-one fails to get a place.  It's just to assess the strengths and weaknesses of the new intake.  Apparently.

That did not stop all the boys calling it an 'entrance exam'.  And for the past week or so, my boy was getting more anxious and more hyper as every day passed.   He wasn't too worried about it being difficult, oh no!  His worry was all about having to sitting still for three hours.  We talked and talked, and scribbled notes went back and forth to school.

Yes, there was a short break mid-morning.

Yes, his SNA would be with him.

No, he didn't have to stay until the end.

Still the anxiety levels increased.  I introduced bribery, and the promise of lunch out afterwards in the cafe by the park that does the yummy smartie cookies (and nice coffee for Mum!).

But this morning, with just an hour to go, he was still saying that he couldn't do it.  8am came and went, somehow I stayed calm, and something I said must've got through ... if only I could remember what it was...  Because he finally got up, ate something and reluctantly got on the bus.

Then I waited.  Phone close by, just in case.

At 12.30pm I left the house, with big sister Angel, and we headed for the school, and waited in the entrance hall and tried not to look at the double doors that stood between us and the school hall where the test was being held.

Two boys went in.

Two boys came out.  Different ones.

The test was due to finish in a few minutes.

Then, finally, he emerged, with his SNA, looking slightly embarrassed, and barely acknowledged us as he went back up to his classroom!

Perhaps he needed a few minutes to process the experience?  Shortly afterwards he appeared on the stairs, with coat and bag, and hood tightly fastened.

"It wasn't as stressful as I thought," he said.

You could have heard our sighs of relief from a mile away.

Support from the big sister

24 comments:

  1. Of course it was much worse for you in the end than it was for him - LOL, always the way.

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  2. Awesome...:) one less mountain to climb

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  3. Aw, I was reading that and hoping the outcome was going to be a good one...I should have heard your sigh of relief from here ;-) xx

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  4. ahh. that is great - a big well done to him. I am dreading the day my son faces his first exam. He has never done any and doesn't like it when we try out 'test' conditions at home. Even though he knows everything, it just makes him panic and think he doesn't. This is a real encouragement to us for the future. thank you. x

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    1. He has done tests in class before, and the school knows that he doesn't perform to his ability in tests, but want him to take them anyway! They're trying to prepare him for secondary school, I guess, and the big exams in a few years time..x

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  5. Awwww, yay! I think we all held our breath reading that!!! :D xx

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    1. Oh good, but it was exactly how it felt :D xx

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  6. and now you can breathe!!!! sending all good vibes your way xxx

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  7. Geexe the stress for you both. I was biting my nails waiting for the outcome. Thank goodness it all went ok x

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  8. Ooh, so sympathise! By the way, this is JuliesMum - I've just decided to stop writing about Julie so much so I've started a new blog instead, more about everything else. One of those things is *my* Aspergers son, who is now 14 and doing *real* (i.e. GCSE) exams. I would say, make sure to remind him that exams and tests are Ok and he can do them now - you do not want to get to the real thing and face him saying he can't do it then (believe me!)

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    1. Great to hear from you :) I thought I'd found a foolproof way to get updates from your blog and I was wondering why I hadn't heard from you! Yes my boy says he won't be as anxious about exams in the future. Though of course, he saying that now...

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  9. Phew, what a relief. That was a BIG step! Well done boy. :)

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  10. Oh how I HATED exams growing up. Big well done to your boy for getting through it - and to you too! x

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