If you often feel cut off from the big wide world when you face into yet another day of laundry, dish washing, bottom-wiping, therapy, appointments, phone calls, cleaning, soothing, entertaining, listening and all the other jobs that fall to special need mums, then do try and schedule the occasional night out to escape from it all.
And I know it can be hard, believe me. I have no family to mind my kids with special needs, apart from my 21 year old daughter, and she is not always available. So I've had to source competent adult babysitters, and you can find them. Try asking SNAs at your child's school, or volunteers at your local special need social group, or on Facebook, or other on-line support sites.
Going out for me also means that things can get a bit lax sometimes. Children may stay up later than they should. They might get pizza for dinner. Their teeth may not get cleaned. They may watch lots of rubbish telly. But the guilt is not going to stop me.
What about the cost you ask? Well there are ways to keep it down. My big night out last Saturday was to go to the Irish Blog Awards: my blue dress was £14.99 from Newry, my daughter babysat for free, the early bird tickets were €30, and I drove there and back.
And even though no wine passed my lips during the 5 hours or so that I was there, I had a ball.
|Posing with a pal and the fab entertainment group |
Lots of frantic Facebook posting and tweeting meant that I got to sit with a group of bloggers from the Irish Parenting Bloggers Group, many of whom were also up for awards, so there were lots of sweaty palms and shaky hands as the winners were announced. And we did end up with a respectable collection of awards at our table.
There wasn't as much time to chat as I would have liked - there was a lot of lovely food to eat, entertainment to watch and of course the awards, presented by the most entertaining MC who I warmed to as soon as 'she' commented at the start that all bloggers are socially awkward (see it's not just me!) and even the winner of the best overall blog said that she more comfortable with writing than speaking!
I was also absolutely delighted that the award for best photography blog went to Foxglovelane. I just LOVE Catherine's wonderful photographs.
Finally I just have to say a huge thank you to the organisers of the event and the awards, I really enjoyed being a part of it, and I'm still enjoying it now....this is just some of what I found in the take home goody bag!
Roll on the next night out....