If you see my severely disabled daughter please don't...



This all happened today while we were in town, but it didn't spoil our trip out as Smiley was oblivious!

I do understand that many people have never seen anyone like my daughter, and don't know what to do around a child or adult with severe disabilities.  So this is my advice:

...Say hello.

...Talk to her.

...Ask about her.

...Pay her compliments (I know it's not PC, but can you please make an exception in my daughter's case?  The lovely lady we met today did, and I am very grateful to her).

It's simple really.


12 comments:

  1. Oh my goodness?!! Someone crossed themselves?!! How absolutely horrendous on the part of that person! I am so sorry that you and your lovely smiley had to cross their path...I'm glad however that you did meet a lovely lady while out an about....Wonderful advice! I hope many people share it. ((()))..

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  2. took me a minute to figure out what cross themselves meant. my god!! only way i could stare at your daughter is because her smile mesmorises me! great advice though, im glad u did meet someone with common sense xx

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  3. What a great post - the smiling and compliment are a great idea and something that would not be intuitive to me ( as in I would worry that the mom would think I was being patronising). I will usually smile and say hi

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    1. Well of course different people will want different things too x

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  4. I cannot believe someone crossed themselves!!! I know 1st hand what it is like to be stared at though since I started having to use a walking stick everyday and have occasional days out where I have to use a wheelchair- people DO look, people Do stare and worst of all they literally DO NOT talk directly to you but to whoever is pushing the chair!! So thankfully my teens are a little more understanding and don't make a huge issue out of seeing someone disabled as they do not like people staring at me :)

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    1. I can't believe that people don't talk to you when you're in a chair, that's unreal :(

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  5. I can't believe someone crossed themselves! I'm glad you met at least one lovely person. This is a great post - simple, moving and to the point. Hope Smiley gets lots of compliments next time you're out and about - she totally deserves them. x

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  6. People can be so bizarre! I am so thrilled that some lovely person complimented Smiley... we can all learn something from that gesture! Yesterday, at the supermarket, a lady was sweeping the floor around our feet... she didn't leave BUT she just kept staring at Nick. It was beginning to feel quite uncomfortable. Eventually I gave her a big smile and then said to Nick, "Nick, that lady just keeps staring at you!". The lady gave a nervous giggle and moved away!

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    1. Sorry you were made feel uncomfortable, but calling her out about it sounds like the perfect solution x

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