Reasons to be Cheerful about Aspergers

After Monday's miseryfest my reasons to be cheerful this week are all about the progress made by my autistic/aspie 13 year old son (take your pick of descriptions, I've no idea what the PC one is at this stage).  It's been a much more peaceful summer this year, thanks to my decision to give him the benefit of the doubt and assume that he wants to please, and if he doesn't cooperate, it's because he can't, not because he won't.  There was a different focus too: I'm not parenting a boy any more, I have a young man hurtling towards adulthood and looking for the skills that will enable him to live independently and successfully when he reaches his destination.  He looks to me to teach him, and this summer we have had plenty of time to learn and practice and work on a few goals that he set himself.  And this is where we are now...

Taking Responsibility


Little things like suggesting a walk in the rain to make himself feel better.  He likes the rain.  It doesn't do a lot for my hair though..

He's taking care of his things too, folding his clothes carefully, making sure that dirty ones go in the laundry, and even drying his own hair - not in a metrosexual way but because he's worried that damp hair might damage his headphones.

Food


Since the holidays began he has made his own breakfast and lunch with minimum mess and is trying some new foods too.

Back to school


He's planning ahead for this, including earlier bedtimes in the run up to the start of term.  Though I *may* have planted this idea earlier in the summer...   However, he was the one who decided to get up as soon as he wakes up.  Impressed?  You should be :)

Chores and errands


Every boring household task is more bearable with company so his help has been great, and he's learned lots of useful skills too, I even taught him to iron, though he hasn't practiced that one too much!  He's also happy to go on errands in the local area, posting letters or buying milk, though it's scary sending him out without a mobile phone - he refuses to have a cheap one and is holding out for an iPhone - and we haven't resolved that dilemma yet.

Hopefully this will be my last post about my son.  Because hopefully I won't feel the need to write about life with Aspergers, except in a general way.  And that is a reason to be cheerful too.

For more information about Aspergers, there's a new website AsIAm, which was established by teenager Adam Harris, and has a positive take on Aspergers, and lots of useful resources for parents, school students and teachers.



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14 comments:

  1. Great news! I'll have to check out that website.

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  2. Thanks for sharing that website, very informative. My son is only 6, but I'm already dreading the teenage years, although I've been told numerous times not to think too much ahead (but I can't help myself...).

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    1. You can never predict what the teenage years will be like - my two girls sailed through them with barely a roll of the eyes x

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  3. That is all such great stuff. You must feel so proud of him. It was just what I needed to read this morning after a difficult evening with both my sons. Sometimes I think the better j does generally, the more I expect of him and then the more disappointed I feel by the bad days instead of celebrating that there have been more good days. X

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  4. This is a lovely post, leaves me feeling positive about my future. I'll take a look at that link too xx

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  5. A wonderful post to read and so many positive things to be cheerful about. Your words have put a smile on my face this weekend. xx

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  6. I am very impressed.....also with his holding out for an iphone, very clever! You should be proud of yourself as well. x

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    1. Who will win the battle of the iPhone I wonder :) x

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  7. I love this post because you describe your son as the individual he is and poke a little fun at the labels. I have a 13 year old and some of the things you say in this post made me think I need to help him towards independence more than I do currently. I guess we can't keep them babies for ever.
    Going to come back and check out that web link too.

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    1. I've always been keen to foster independence in my kids - I'd rather enjoy their company doing thing with them, rather than for them x

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