Everything seems a little more hopeful

The sun is shining, the birds are singing, a red geranium is swaying in the September breeze, and everything seems a little more hopeful.  There are still a lot of challenges to be faced, but maybe, just maybe, I am more able for them than I have been for a very long time.  But I still feel the need to write up my reasons to be cheerful, so here they are:

Diagnosis


The results are back and my lung problem is something unpronounceable but not life-threatening.  The prescription?  Physiotherapy, regular flu vaccinations and lots and lots of exercise!  So I'm determined to make the exercise fun and go to the occasional class with friends while the kids are at school, or run along the beach rather than pound the pavements along streets I've seen a thousand times before.

Music


I grew up surrounded by music: my father, his father and I all played the piano, I sang in the school choir and a couple of groups.  I always assumed that my children would be the same, but so far my piano sits unloved and unplayed in the back room.  Yet my son always showed an interest in music, both at home and at school, but never went quite as far as learning an instrument.  Until now.  In his secondary school all the boys begin learning the recorder in second year, and my son has taken up this challenge with gusto.  I know this because my ears tell me that he has spent more time on his music homework than any other subject.  It's a good start.

Progress


Well since I wrote the post about being offered meetings instead of services, things have been happening for Smiley.  Perhaps it's just a coincidence though.  But the shower chair is now being repaired, I have a replacement tray for the broken one on her wheelchair, the respite issues are being addressed, and appointments have been made to investigate her sleeping problem.  All is improving in her world.

Special friends


When I started yoga two years ago I only knew the lovely lady who organised it.  But being me, I started sharing the details of the classes all over social media, and interest slowly grew.  And at this week's class I was surrounded by friends, not just the new ones I've made but also five friends I've met through special needs.  Oh and I still try and put my yoga mat beside the door!

Reasons to be Cheerful


Striking Mums


As you probably know by now 'reasons to be cheerful' is about looking at the positive things in your life and the good things that happened over the previous seven days.  It's blogging as a form of therapy, and I find it very helpful.  So I'm also planning to join in with this new initiative from Kate on Thin Ice .  This week's theme is "Being Different is Good", something I know all about as a special needs Mum!  Here's her questions, and my answers:

1. Are you different and, if so, how?

I guess I feel that everyone is unique so we are all different, but perhaps some of us are more different than others.  There's a good chance that I have Asperger's Syndrome like my son, and that would explain a lot of the difficulties I had as a teenager, my social awkwardness and the constant niggling lack of self-confidence that I just could never seem to fit in anywhere.

2. Do you celebrate your uniqueness or strive to fit in?

A bit of both.  Social media helps, as I've found other adults who are obsessed with everything Tolkien, indie music and fast cars!

3. Are you ever judgemental of other mums who are different from you? Answer honestly even if only in your own head.

I try very hard not to be judgemental, but I'm sure I am: some very harsh parenting methods upset me for example.

4. What would you like to be different about you?

To have better social skills.

5. Have you ever being attacked or bullied for being different? How did that affect you?

Yes. I was an uberconfident child, but bullying in my teenage years changed me completely, though I learned to act confident, even if I didn't feel it.

6. If you had to write an advert for yourself as a limited edition, what would you say to make people think you were great?

I wouldn't want anyone to think I was great!  

And that's all for this week...


Kate on thin Ice Striking Mums




20 comments:

  1. How do I comment when I think you are great? Like you said about my post, this post makes me want to know you more and more about your life and times too. I am so pleased things seem to be turning a positive corner on so many different fronts for you and yours. Totally with you on number 4 - I would give up a lot to have good social skills. My words just get stuck in my head and mouth as I try to work out exactly the right thing to say. So much easier online. So pleased you are joining in with Striking Mums - thrilled to bits because I think you are (cover your eyes!) great!

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    1. You're very kind and, like you, I often find that I speak more eloquently through my fingers x

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  2. glad you have a diagnosis, enjoy exercising on the beach! I love music too and I am glad both my children have picked up an instrument. thanks for joining in and I must do my striking mums post!!

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    1. Brilliant that both your children are playing musical instruments and off to check out your striking mums post now!

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  3. Get rocking that piano! Music is amazing for the mind and the soul. I can't play the spoons, and I really admire people who are musical. Roll over Beethoven! XX

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  4. So glad you finally have a diagnosis! been thinking about you, even when I disappeared a little.

    I too think you are great, especially that you can do that bendy shit (yoga) xx

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    1. From here on in it will be bendy shit all the way! xx

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  5. Love it that your son has inherited the musical gene. I hope he goes on to play the piano as well.

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  6. I love piano even though I never played (It was my brother's and I wasn't allowed to touch it!). Hope your son gets even more interested, music does wonders to the mind.

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    1. So sad that you weren't allowed to touch it, that sounds like an untold story xx

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  7. I think you are great, I'm really glad your health problems are not as bad as you were obviously expecting. I really wish I could do yoga, would love to be flexible x

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  8. Love your reasons to be cheerful they're all full of good news for you all which is so wonderful, hope everything continues to go well :) your striking mums post is kind of sad to me! Pretending to be confident I know it gives a sense of confidence but it's a shame you had people take a lot if your natural confidence from you. And you don't want anyone to think you're great? Pah, plenty do so you'll have to accept that hehe xx

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  9. You always have the best reasons to be cheerful..I'm glad that things are looking up-especially for Smiley's needs! AND yours..:)

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  10. I would love to try yoga i need something to de-stress, glad your lung condition is something you can live with, my dad has sarcoydosis, spelt something like that, hat effects his lungs but he manages it very well. Fingers crossed so hasn't had any noticable effects on him x

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  11. I'd never heard of sarcoidosis until recently, but is seems that Ireland has one of the highest incidences of the disease .. Glad to hear that your Dad is coping x

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