Mistakes and Achievements

I wrote a post about autism this week, but I think it was a mistake.  Readers assumed that it was about my son even though he wasn't mentioned.  More posts were planned, but it looks as though this blog will have to become a completely autism-free zone, to protect my son now he is a teenager.  That's even though autism is the thread that runs through everything we do as a family.  I still write about it, and it's good to let go of all those feelings, but pressing publish would be better again, and I know that I can't.  It's depressing and I think my blog has suffered.  That's partly why I'm doing more linky posts, they keep me entertained, but perhaps not you...

So today it's all about my reasons to be cheerful and striking mums again, and apologies if some of this is not new.

I am five


I didn't even notice the anniversary, but my blog turned 5 this week.  It was begun with so little thought that it's hard to believe that I am still writing here, and that so many lovely people are still reading.  Thank you.



A successful election


Smiley didn't win, despite all the cakes I sent in to encourage everyone to vote for her!  But she did come second, and she is very proud in her new role.

A tidy house


It's not quite what you think, not everyone would be impressed, but it is a huge improvement.  The gaffe is no longer carpeted with small plastic toys or abandoned clothes.  Nope, my kids are starting to care about their surroundings and do something about it too.

The DIY queen


Well not quite, but I did manage to fix the broken toilet, the one that had been broken all summer...

And also on the toilet theme, my son not only set foot inside a shopping centre at the weekend but also minded Smiley while I made a quick trip to the Ladies.  On my own!

The Postman rang again


This week it was my turn to get excited when the postman rang the doorbell to deliver these.



One new Mia Tui rucksack for when I need to escape, and also.... well all will be revealed later.

And, finally


I also met up with friends for coffee, and for dancing.  Until Friday, it was as good as it gets x

More reasons to be cheerful over at Ojo's World.


Ojos World


Did you see the wonderful Lynda Bellingham on the TV this week?  I rarely watch daytime TV, but I caught this interview, and I could not turn away.  She was so inspiring about living life to the full in the face of terminal cancer.  And it was Lynda that Kate on Thin Ice was thinking of when she came up with this week's questions for her #StrikingMums series:

Kate on thin Ice Striking Mums


1. Tell us about a mum who inspires you.  What are her special qualities?

Six months ago I wrote about Five Women who inspired me.  But the one I remember the most is Everywoman, who could also be EveryMother.  She's not famous, she's not celebrated, but she is the backbone of the family and the local community too.  I wish I could be like her.

2. Are you happy? If not, what is stopping you?

Can anyone be happy all the time?  Is that perhaps too ambitious?  I embrace moments of happiness and hold them tight, like when my children smile at me, or laughing with friends, or singing along to the radio, or pausing to look at the pinky orange clouds as the sun peeks over the chimney tops.

3. What little things that don’t really matter do you allow to get to you?

I've learned to ignore so many things now, but anything involving waiting, such as traffic jams, checkout queues and automated phone systems, they drive me insane.  Other people can upset me too, especially when I worry that I've said the wrong thing.

4. Who do you need to talk to and why are you putting it off?

Oooh, I'll just go and check my "to do" list, there's bound to be a few on there ...

5. How are you inspirational? If you are not quite sure, ask someone close to you and see what they think. We do not always see ourselves as others do.

I am not at all comfortable with the idea that people think I'm inspirational!  It just make me feel like a fraud, because I am the most unlikely person ever to become a carer, and I'm only doing what anyone else would do if they found themselves in the same situation.  Which is: I'm a lone parent to three children, two of whom have different special needs.  I adore my children, but I don't really like life as a carer, so this blog is one of the ways that I try to improve my life and focus on the good things.  Perhaps that's why it's still going after five years...



34 comments:

  1. Happy 5th Birthday to Looking For Blue Sky!!!! Em...I haven't read the post you mentioned there but I will soon. I'm just guessing (but I'd say I'm right), I'm sure it wasn't a mistake. Fixing broken toilets...we needed you here for a while, well done, that is a true skill!! xxx

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  2. I too try not to post too much about autism for the very same reason x

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  3. Happy Blogoversary! I'm glad that I found your blog..glad to have shared in the ups and downs AND toilet repairs! Write whatever you feel like-just keep writing. :))

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    1. I'd say I probably will, and so glad that I found your blog too, you tell it like it is, but still manage to make me smile :) xxx

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  4. SoftThistle was 5 last week too! I had another blog before that for almost 2 years... 7 years on Nov 6th!
    I find you inspirational - you're EveryWoman, you know. :) x

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    1. Happy Birthday to Softthistle too, so glad you're still blogging and thanks for the kind words :) x

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  5. Happy 5th Birthday! I am so pleased that I found you. Totally understand and relate to your feeling of being a "fraud" when people commend you on coping. What else are we supposed to do? They are our children and our responsibility and we love them. Of course we'll do all we can for them, but that doesn't mean we always have to like it, either!

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  6. Happy 5th birthday !! I understand what you mean about autism, that's why I haven't really written anything yet and I'm not sure I want to.

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    1. Perhaps there's already too many of us doing it? Certainly don't unless you want to x

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  7. Congrats on your 5th birthday. I DID read your previous post but didn't read into it that it was related to your son. It was a very interesting piece and worth while bringing up. It would be a shame to lose your sharing of your expertise in all things autism but you must do as you think best vis a vis your circumstances :) I love everything you write anyway.I'd love to hear about your Mia Tui rucksack- I was wondering is it heavy? I'd love one if it wasn't too heavy/stiff feel. x

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    1. Thanks so much Ruth :)

      The Mia Tui Rucksack is wonderful, I found it both light and very comfortable to carry. It's also soft and supple without being floppy x

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  8. I read that post, and found one comment particularly rude and ignorant, but bit my tongue! Don't stop writing what you feel! I'll inbox you in a bit, with an idea.
    I think the most inspirational people are usually the ones that don't think they are. Those that get on with life, without complaint............like you!! Xx

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    1. Thanks so much for your comments and your email, I just need a bit of time :) xx

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  9. Happy Birthday, and I think you are inspirational for dealing with all your children's needs. I think you should talk about autism if it makes you feel better, how about an anonymous blog? or guest posting on another blog. But I also agree with and respect your decision to not write about it again here. My house is the same just when I think it is tidy the kids strike and I am right back at square one x

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    1. I know, and yet you see all these super gorgeous tidy houses on other people blogs, don't you? Photo taken just before the kids strike perhaps? x

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  10. I read your 'Autism' blog, and thought it a good post - I like what you write, as I'm sure (judging by the comments here) many others do too.

    Take care, Kimmie x

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  11. The more I read your posts the more I like you and sense a connection. I get nominated for inspirational awards and it is crazy because if I am it is because sometimes life has gone wrong and I have kept on keeping on and I strive to ensure other mums don't feel as useless and lonely as I have felt over the years. So I get what you are saying but over the years I have worked out we just have to accept other people to form their view and if that view is a positive one of us, thank goodness for that and just don't believe that great press too much. You are a strong person and yes perhaps because you have had to be but that is still impressive. There is a magic to blogging so it interests me that not being a daytime telly watcher you saw that very interview just after getting involved in Striking Mums. I found your answer to question 2 really interesting and the one to number 4 and I am probably wrong but I got a sense you were swatting that question away for some reason. I am bad at waiting too and worry way too much what people think about me. Have a lovely week

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    1. You are absolutely right that I should appreciate it if people think good rather than bad of me, and that's partly why you're inspirational, because you are brilliant at finding ways to make everyone feel better about themselves x

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  12. Happy Birthday. I love your blog and read every word that you write. Be true to yourself and share what you are comfortable with. xx

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    1. You are so good and I really appreciate your kind words xx

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  13. Well done on the anniversary - means we started in the same year. Great reasons to be cheerful and take care of you and take time out to reflect on what is right or wrong for you on the blogging front. Every open and honest post helps someone out there but you also need to take care of you and yours - a balancing act for sure.

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    1. Gosh I didn't know that you are five too, Happy Blogaversary :)

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  14. Happy 5th blog anniversary. That bag looks lovely. And well done on the loo fix - In our house things like that can take so long to get around to that it really does feel like a cause for celebration when they get done. xxx

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  15. So glad to finally get to pop over and catch-up in blogland, we've already done it in real life. You are so echoing my thoughts when I was going through the same autism/teenager thing. Anything you write is either entertaining or insightful or both.
    I really like that rucksack...... xx

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    1. Well the rucksack could do with more testing so perhaps some kind of walk once you're completely better? xx

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  16. Happy anniversary. Sorry your blog post on autism attracted the wrong sort of attention - I guess some of these areas are a bit of a can of worms. I did think one of the comments I saw on the post was really rude and personal. I'm sorry you felt you couldnt write more because it was really interesting. But I like everything you write so I don't mind,

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    1. Thanks so much and I seem to have missed your blog posts, am going to rectify that now xx

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