The pros and cons of being an independent woman

I always wanted to be independent. That seems old fashioned now, with so many people staying at home well into their 20s and 30s. But I couldn't wait to leave and make my own way (but with a little help from my parents, which I conveniently forget most of the time).

In my first flat I installed an electric cooker over five nights, with a new set of instructions every day from my helpful work colleagues. I learned the basics of car maintenance - before all this electronic stuff made it almost impossible to work on a car at home. I managed my own life.

Of course I was half of a couple for almost 20 years, but I'm now I'm independent once again. But it's not always easy, so many things I have to do...

Answer the doorbell at 3am.

Investigate noises at 3.30 am.

Attend to noisy special needs teenagers at 4.30 am.

Get up at 5.30 am to start the day again.

No one to consult.

No one to listen to my news (except my blog.)

No one to help with daily parenting issues.

No one to bring the bins out.

No one to remind me to bring the bins out (lucky I have a smartphone).

I have to buy my own presents (most of the time).

No surprises unless I organise them myself.

I have to multitask and be multi talented.

I still can't use a drill and neither can anyone else in the house.

It can be lonely and scary at times.

On the other hand being independent has its perks too...

No duvet hoggers.

No need to cook fancy meals.

No issues with in-laws.

I have control of the remote.

I don't have to worry about the size of my bum in anything.

I make my own life choices, which don't always turn out well, but at least I made them.

It's down to me to fill the cracks in my life and my home too (was out today with the trowel and the polyfilla).

My life, my decisions.

Because I do it all and hold it all together, I rarely cry. Unless someone is kind to me. That never fails to open the floodgates. Today it was the lovely people at Netflix. This arrived as a thank you for watching all those wonderful TV series' and films and then writing about them. Sometimes I love blogging!

The new iPad will be perfect for my personal Netflix viewing: I've just finished watching Gotham, the Batman prequel series - and very entertaining it was too.

On Angel's recommendation, I'm currently watching Narcos - I was afraid it would be brutal, grim and scary, and I was pleasantly surprised by the first few episodes. Perhaps because it's set so far away, in time and place, it feels as much a fantasy as many of the other programmes that I watch, mixed with a bit of nostalgia for 70s TV series like Starsky and Hutch, and Miami Vice.

And we're all counting down the days until this starts...

Disclosure: I have received free Netflix streaming, a streaming device and an iPad as part of my membership of the Netflix Stream Team. All opinions expressed in this post are my own. 


  1. And as an independant woman you get to choose which films and series you watch and when you watch them. And if you want to binge-watch all night, you can.

    1. Agreed, though I would regret binge-watching when Smiley called me in the night or early morning!

  2. You manage your independence so wonderfully, and can attend to so many jobs that I can't. Well, make that won't. There are jobs that I refuse to do lest they end up permanently on my to-do-list ;) But at least I have someone to do them.
    We're watching Narcos too and will be mentioned in my planned Netflix post that I will finally get done! xx

    1. Ooh look forward to reading what you think of Narcos! xx