If no-one wishes you Happy Mother's Day

Of course it should be mother's day every day of the year. After all we mothers are never off duty. We never stop thinking about our children, or doing things for them, whether they're 5 or 25 (or even 55).  For most of us, Mothering Sunday is a day of appreciation. There will be breakfast in bed, gifts and cards, extra cuddles and kisses. And lots of lots of love.

But it's important to remember those mums for whom today will be like every other day. Perhaps they are separated from their children. Not in contact. Perhaps they gave them up for adoption and do not know where they are.

Maybe their children are no longer living. And today is a day of mourning and sadness.

Some will have children who do not remember Mother's Day .

Some will have children with intellectual disabilities so severe that it's impossible to know if they understand what today means, even though they 'made' pretty Mother's Day cards in school.

To all those mums, I say treat yourself, value yourself, be kind to yourself, and make today the best day that it can be.

If no-one else wishes you Happy Mother's Day, then I will. Because in a small way, I have been that Mum too.


22 comments:

  1. Happy Mothers Day to you.
    Matthew always remembered to get something for me when the kids were younger. Or my mum sending my dad out to buy me a box of chops "just in case" Matthew forgot.
    Paul asked me for suggestions of what I'd like. So he and Peter bought me the DVD of War and Peace (on tv recently) and Doctor Turner's casebook - written from the view of the GP in call the midwife.
    Louise and Christopher will be here later - funny for me to be in the position of Granny!!!
    Enjoy the day and hopefully you'll get a cuppa in peace

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    1. Just putting my feet up for an hour now :)

      So pleased you had a lovely day xx

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  2. Happy Mothers Day to you too. You're right, it should be every day, and we should all treat ourselves - more than once a year! :) x

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    1. Definitely more than once a year Steph :) x

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  3. Simply beautiful piece and so true!

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  4. Thank you for your beautiful thought. House sitting for son who is on holiday but was feeling miserable as no text or call from him. A happy mother's day to you.

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    1. Thank you for commenting, and glad it meant something to you xx

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  5. I think we're on a similar wavelength today! It's not the hippy-happy hallmark day as advertised for all, is it?
    Happy Mother's Day to you.... be kind to you :-) xx

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  6. Happy Mothers Day to you too!
    This is so thoughtful!

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  7. Update :) Just got a phone call - he had not been able to get a phone signal. So thank you again. Looking forward to reading your other blogs. You really are an amazing lady x

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  8. Happy Mother's Day X with all love xxxx

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  9. So true and and very important to say. Thank you. I felt a bit like on my birthday - a single mum with a child too young to have any initiative about it. I admit I'd not conidered the mothers who have lost children or given themup for adoption. This day mut be so painful for them. Happy Mother's day to you Candi xxxx (Sorry Im a bit late).

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    1. Yes I should have mentioned lone parents too, because then there may be no one to encourage the children to remember Mother's Day xxxx

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  10. You are so right, this is a day with far too much expectation and pressure put upon it. I had a friend tell me on Monday she spent most of the day crying as she had no-one to spend it with as she is not a mother and her Mum is dead. She is the most mothering person I now, I said next year she had to spend it with us. Mich x

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