the life-changing magic of tidying up your life

I have a confession to make: I haven't read the book. But with so many people talking about Marie Kondo, I've picked up a few tips and I'm thinking that I might be able to reduce the stress in my life by removing daily activities that do not spark joy. Sadly many of them have to stay. But making a few changes by following the principles in the life-changing magic of tidying up has given me several reasons to be cheerful for this week...

Starting with Socks


In this family we like to know our own socks, so everyone has to wear a different style. As a result I've accumulated a drawer full of hastily bought socks with dubious patterns on them that do not look very stylish when peeking out from under the hem of a pair of jeans.

So this week I "treated" myself to another set of black socks (with coloured toes and heels) which meant I could get rid of all the old ones that just annoy me. There's nothing worse than the glimpse of a Santa hat on a sock in July. Well you know what I mean...


Getting untied from the kitchen sink


I'm going to do less cooking. At least for the next three months until the exams are over. I want to get away from the kitchen sink and the view of smelly bins, a red brick wall and overgrown ivy, and Go and Do Something Less Boring Instead (remember the TV show?).

Because despite what the healthy eating gurus say, there is no comparison between the purchase of a bag of chips and disposal of the paper wrapping; and the time it takes to choose a recipe, buy, prepare and cook ingredients, serve the meal, clear the table, wash up and divide everything left over into compostables, recyclables and rubbish, and then dispose of it. Not that I'll actually be eating that many chips you understand.

I began on Monday with a trip to IKEA to get a lamp for the hall and my dinner too, aka Swedish meatballs. Totally set me up for the day. And here's a gratuitous picture of the lamp, which my son says he likes. So that's a win.


A bit of a clearout


Special needs is teaching me to be less judgmental, but I don't see that with everyone around me.  Bad things really do happen to good people, even when they are trying to make good choices. Not everyone is mentally strong enough to "suck it up" when life goes wrong. What if your children have cancer, your life partner has died too soon, or your home is going to be repossessed? Do we expect people dealing with problems like these to walk around with brave smiles on their face all the time? I hope not, because there is no compassion in not recognising and empathising with the pain of others. We all have our problems, and some people cope better than others. That doesn't make them better people.

Since I don't like seeing judgmental comments and memes on social media, I've started unfriending and unfollowing those who post them. It feels good, and my feeds are starting to spark joy again too!

For more posts that spark joy, head over to Lakes Single Mum.

Reasons to be Cheerful


20 comments:

  1. Decluttering does lift the spirits, I am not brave enough to Kon Mari though! That lamp is lovely and I am so jealous of the Ikea meatballs. That is a great idea to clear out the negative voices

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    1. I don't think I could do a full Kon Mari either, it would be another pressure!

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  2. Ohh I like your lamp and can you believe I've never tried Ikea meatballs, I hear so much about them. lol. I've also never heard iof this Marie Kondo but then I am a decluttering freak anyway. Mich x

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    1. The meatballs are just about the best value meal you can get :)

      I'm also keen on decluttering, but never thought to apply it to my life before x

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  3. I regularly declutter and make donations to local charities, with 4 boys and my husband socks are the bane of my life, i have no idea which pair belong to who and as a result we have piles of odd socks, usually black ones. I've sent ALL the odd socks back with the teen as he arrived with 3 socks for this visit, it doesn't bother him if they're odd, after all he says 'life is too short'

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    1. Five lots of socks! I can just imagine what that's like... I hope you find a solution some time soon x

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  4. Susan (Eastendmom)April 15, 2016 at 1:51 AM

    I love getting rid of clutter, but if I only hung onto things that sparked joy there wouldn't be much left. Might even be a few family members missing :-) De-friending and blocking on social media is a wonderful thing, and I have several friends who (blessedly) no longer show up in my fb feed. How do some people have time to post all those endless memes?

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    1. There might not be much left here either :-)

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  5. Decluttering sounds like a good plan, although I am not sure where to start.... the sock drawer scares me! I am also doing the whole Facebook delete thing..... don't you find fb has changed over the last two years? So much more mindless rubbish than genuine shares! See you soon!! xx

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    1. Yep, I agree, and some friends who used to post interesting updates and shares no longer use Facebook much at all, which is a shame. See you next week!!! xx

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  6. I've also not read the book but with so many articles, blogs and vlogs about it I really don't have to - I'm sure I know all the important bits. Btw, did you fold your socks instead of rolling them and thank them for their good work? And here's a tip from me - don't feel obliged to match those socks all the time, especially when they start to wear thin. It so doesn't matter if your heels and toes are different colours.

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    1. No fancy folding here. Yet. And I *have* to wear matching things - even the pegs on the clothes line have to match :)

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  7. I like your style! These are great tips for tidying up life! But why do I feel so guilty if I buy ready prepared food?!!!
    Like you , I don't nee to read others nasty stuff. I've unfriended a few - its good to change!
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    1. Do you feel guilty? I'm always telling myself to stop feeling guilty for giving myself a much needed break at time, it's essential x

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  8. I have to admit that I laughed my way through that book! Ridiculous. But that's because I am way to dis-organised. And I refuse to 'thank my socks for all they do for me' - or words to that effect.
    I very much like your adaptation of this book though, and I hope the changes really do spark joy in your life. Just like that lovely lamp is bound to do :-) xx

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    1. I didn't know that you were supposed to 'thank your socks', that's so not me! But I do think that sparking joy is definitely important and I do plan to work on it in my life xx

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    2. I guffawed my way through the book too! Does this item spark joy? No, create annoyance more like, but can i throw it out - no! Rent sheets when guests come to stay... that's the point that i put down the book and decluttered my pant drawer - we all have to start somewhere...

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  9. I have a few pairs of those socks too (your new ones not our old kind ... although there might be a few of them lurking around) and what I love is mismatching them and wearing different colours. It feels a bit... I don't know .. like I'm refusing to conform. They do however have to be the same type, I mean I'd feel uncomfortable wearing a bright green sock with a black sock with pink toes - that would be just wrong!
    Like your quick tips though. I've not read the book either but would like to apply some of it to my life. The whole sparking joy idea is great. I'm wearing my odd sock combo more often :D

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    1. I suspect you're not the only person who does that. I think that the little rebellions remind us of the teenagers we once were :) I enjoy them too. Just not with socks!

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