Less blogging, more caring

The last ever 'Poor Me' post on here, I promise...

Another blogging friend announces she's quitting and this blog sinks again in the tots 100 blogging index. I seem to have lost my way, lost my confidence and even lost my interest in writing. Nor can I keep up in with the relentless changes to blogging and social media.

I still jot down ideas, thoughts and even whole paragraphs, but rarely have the urge to write it up. I just wonder if anyone will be interested in the now very crowded blogosphere. Unless I promote it to death of course and that's not my style.

I still like doing the reasons to be cheerful posts each week as well as writing about Netflix, and there will always be a place on here for others to tell their stories, even anonymously.

But that might be all, because sometimes this blog feels like yet another pressure in my life, especially the need to be positive and find the 'blue sky'.

I know I'm becoming bitter and I know that's not attractive, and I need to leave it off the blog. Yet this used to be a place where I could offload so I can be cheerful in real life. Now I have to offload somewhere else.

My blogging also means that people assumer that I must have lots of free time, especially as I'm no longer in paid employment, when the truth is that I am very rarely alone at home, even on 'school' days. Normally one of my children is at home and needs my attention. And the things I do? Like blogging, Facebooking, watching Netflix, jogging, the gym? The main reason I do them is to prop up my mental, emotional and physical health so I can get up tomorrow and do it all again.

If you asked me what I want to do, I wouldn't have a clue, I no longer know what I like or what I want.

I told you I was bitter!!!!

Anyway, there will be no more misery on this blog, just the good stuff or coverage of specific issues. Or there may be nothing at all. Less blogging, and a lot more caring. We shall see.




26 comments:

  1. I totally know how you feel xx Of late I haven't been "blogging" at all x Life is so hard at times and then to "write" it down it isn't good for the mind sometimes to focus on the realities we SN Moms live everyday x Your blog was the first one I ever read and ever followed so I would really miss you if you were gone xxx So please don't go x I only write for mine now once a month, if even that x Too hard some times and the older the boys get and the more they suffer the more it plays on my mind.x I am always here for a chat if you need one :) xxx Sending huge hugs to an amazing lady, mother and Blogger!xxx

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    1. You're very kind, and I don't think that I will go completely, but I feel the need to apologise in case all I publish are Netflix and Reasons to be Cheerful posts! xxx

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  2. I hear you. It's hard to keep it all going. I love your blog but understand the pressures you're under-a lot more than most people are!xx

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    1. The parent blogging thing with all the social media needed is just too much for me atm, but I've found I can't just stop completely xx

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  3. I have to admit, I thought I would blog and comment on other blogs on a more regular basis.
    But somehow, life seems to have got in the way!!!
    I still haven't blogged about Paul's Graduation and that was 4 weeks ago!!.
    Sometimes I feel I don't have much to say and I don't want it to be a moan fest.
    Mind you, the past 4months or so have been particularly busy and by the time I think about it, I'm just too jiggered to write.
    It's also been the day to day things as well, trying to tidy the bedroom so we could get the new bed up. Still a work in progress on Matthew's side of the room. I was ruthless!!
    Then on to the dining room, getting a sideboard built up to put Peter's dads in and tidying round the room.
    Then some of the pictures that have been lingering in frames to be put up.
    Hmmmm, so it goes.
    We had a foray in Ikea for some more frames and a few bits (have spent £100 in that shop in the past few weeks!!!).
    But we're getting there

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    1. I'm also busier than ever, but my life is more mundane, so less time to blog and less to blog about!

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  4. Never give up writing. The good stuff and the bad always worth reading.
    Aud x

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    1. Thanks Aud, I might put the bad stuff somewhere else ;) xx

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  5. I do hope you continue to write in this blog for I always enjoy reading what you write. I'm not really interested in FB blogs, you know the ones which show you all that is wonderful in their lives, or all the havoc the children are creating. I like real. Your posts often stop me in my tracks and in many ways make me a better person, forcing me to see a life I've no experience of and the failings I live with and tolerate in society because they don't affect me.
    However if you fee this blog is a drag on your time or another duty or stress I'd drop it for sure.
    Personally I am a selfish blogger in the sense I don't care what my 'audience' want I am writing what I wish to write. If some read and enjoy great, if not I'm not too bothered. I'm not writing a blog to be a blogger I'm just writing a blog if you know what I mean?
    Whatever you decide take care. Life is short and unless we are getting paid for it we should not be putting up with anything that doesn't bring us joy.
    I would really miss your blog though.

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    1. Thank you, your support means a lot. I've always tried to be honest on here, and as I said I probably will continue to post, but less of it, there's only so many ways you can say you're fed up!

      And I really don't think that you are a selfish blogger in any way. I fact it's because you write for yourself that I enjoy reading it.

      Originally I did just write for myself, but I have tended to adjust the way I write whenever the blog gets criticised.

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  6. I see no reason to give up writing it like it is....it's bloody hard!!!! The fact that you can still be cheerful and see the blue sky is a miracle in itself. Don't sell yourself short. This is your blog, your thoughts, your feelings...your therapy. This is a record of your life, it is what it is and to only make it one dimensional would be making it into something it's not. Don't give it up but only write for you xxx

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    1. Thanks so much Lyndylou, I've decided to start over elsewhere with a different kind of blog . Much love to you xxx

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  7. I completely agree with what My Thoughts on a Page said above. I love your blog and have found it hugely helpful, at times inspirational and at times its been so reassuring to know that other mums of children with special needs have felt and experienced the same as me. Its helped me get through the bad days to know I've not been alone in those feelings and experiences.

    In terms of you not using the blog as a place to offload, I would hate to think that you feel pressure to post in a certain way. One of the most refreshing things about your blog is - to quote MTOAP again - is that its not an FB look at my wonderful life type piece of fluff. Its real, its gritty, its funny, its moving. It is one of my favourite blogs.

    It is also completely your decision as to what you do and write. I'd hate to see you step away but I utterly understand how it can feel like yet another thing you HAVE to do. Much love x

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    1. Thank you, all these lovely comments will encourage not to take it down, at least not yet! x

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  8. You are one of my favourite bloggers, supportive of everyone, not in it for awards or fame, just telling it like it is. Blogging fell by the wayside for me because life just became so damned difficult, and I really miss it, but even if I found the time I don't know how to put the true horror of what has happened on the page without feeling like I was creating a car crash for everyone to gawp at, or without making my family incredibly vulnerable. And yes, like you I felt an obligation to not be too bitter, to wait until there is some blue sky to start writing. Life is, of course, still full of joy, but I'm too damned exhausted to start writing and then yes, blogging feels like a bind not a release. I really, really hope you and Wendy still dip in now and again. I value your posts, talking about good times as well as bad, because life has the same balance, which is why I feel such a connection. Much love to you and the family xxx

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    1. Thanks Renata, and you've expressed it really well. I hope that you will begin blogging again at some point, and I know some of what has happened and the pressure and stress and chaos affecting your family at the moment, and I really hope you all get a break soon xxx

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  9. I didn't realize the new TOTS100 scores were up. My score has more than doubled but my ranking went down by almost 300. I noticed you took the badge down. I think I will do the same. But don't go! Remember T100 isn't a social club, it's a business. We're on the list and PRs will find us if they want to. So forget about T100 and just blog the blog. We both have hundreds of readers, we don't need a PR service to tell us how worthy our blogs are. Blogging has become a career and we're not professional bloggers - which is nothing about the writing and all about manipulating social media stats. We are fantastic hobby bloggers with great blogs, good writing, inspiring messages, and a community of blogger friends. Please don't leave just because a new generation want to be Sterling Moss to our drives in the country, or Jane Fonda to our "just going for a walk to get some exercise." Seriously, it's not a competition. Although we did enjoy that bit of excitement every month, the ranking was never the reason for blogging. I'll shut up now.

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    1. Lovely words R, and I know logically that it's not a competition, but whenever I see the 'top' blogs, I want to be up there and I want to be like them! So I'm starting over away from all the pressure of the parent blogging scene :) But obviously I still plan to read and engage with my favourite blogs xxx

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  10. Ah, nothing wrong with a bit of bitterness!!!!!!!! Whether or not you continue to blog I'd just like to say that I consider you an excellent writer. Take care. Xxx

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  11. I'd be sorry to see you withdraw completely too. I'm of the opinion less is more. Give me a blogger who has something to say once every few weeks than one who posts every day. And you have something to say. I took the badge down months ago. Realised it was affecting why and what I wrote and how often I posted on IG instead of just sticking to what I would do naturally. We're all finding a new way, nowadays, and I hope you stick it out when you find yours xx

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  12. Ohh C, just be kind to yourself. I think all us old timers are feeling the burn of having done this for so long now. If you need to get the bitter out on here to be cheerful in real life then that seems pretty darn sensible to me. I love your writing. Mich xx

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  13. I am reading this for the second time.... I wasn't sure what to say the first time round. My instantaneous thought was, oh no, I am so going to miss your blog and what is going on in your life! The comment from Mywordsonapage.com sums up perfectly how I feel. Sending you love and light. See you somewhere else. xx

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    1. mythoughtsonapage.com is wonderful with words, isn't she? Anyway see you on the other side xx

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